Control is a Killer – Part 2

Control is a Killer – Part 1

Bible Reading: 2 Corinthians 1:15-24

Not that we have dominion over your faith, but are fellow workers for your joy; for by faith you stand” [2 Corinthians 1:24 NKJV]

One of the problems linked to control and domination is that people are often not aware that they are doing it, and therefore also subject to deception. A spirit of witchcraft [domination, control] and deception tend to operate together.

I have discovered that two major issues related to control are rejection and busy-bodying. We will look at both today.

When a person faces serious rejection, and especially in childhood from the people they most expect love from, there are often two parallel roots that develop. The first is the fear of further rejection, and the second is self-rejection.

Fear is one of Satan’s greatest weapons. People use various mechanisms to counteract the fear of rejection. These include anger, trying to be successful so that people will love and accept you, acting and believing as if you don’t need other people, and also trying to be in control. When you try to be in control you must win every argument, cannot accept criticism, and believe your opinion is always right. The sad thing about this is that you may also be deceived and believe that the way you are living is the way that God intended!

It is also a powerful entrance for spirits of control to come in and dominate a person’s life.

The other area that is prone to become an issue of control is busy-bodying. This means to involve yourself in other people’s affairs that are really none of your business. I have particularly noticed the prevalence of this on social media.

Writing to the Thessalonians Paul gives a strong word of counsel, “make it your ambition to lead a quiet life: You should mind your own business and work with your hands, just as we told you” [1 Thessalonians 4:11]. The more we interact with others, the more we must guard our attitudes. Before speaking it may be wise to ask if what I am saying is necessary, and is the issue any of my business. This would save an awful lot of pain, and especially in the context of a church fellowship.


Have you, like me, ever used the various mechanisms that I have mentioned today to protect yourself against the fear of being rejected? If God has set you free from those mechanisms what difference did it make in your life?

What do you think Paul means when he says, “Make it your ambition to lead a quiet life”?

Why does Paul consider it to be so important that we learn to be quiet and mind our own business?

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